caution: rant

i am extremely irritated with the boy's brother.. in the past couple of months, he has been 'seeing' two different women.. by 'seeing' i mean that he appears to be dating both of them and is sleeping with at least one of them.. i'm pretty positive that they do not know that he is playing the field.. normally, this would not involve me, but when he brings both of them to the house (always without asking, i might add), it involves me indirectly.. one girl seems rather sweet; she was with us the night wrath launched and we were all standing outside the game store in line.. she's come over a few times to play (or simply watch him play) and they've watched some anime and other things together.. perhaps he would like us to think that this is a friendly relationship.. .. but, the way i've seen them snuggling on the couch doesn't seem very platonic to me.. i mean, i know i don't usually drape myself over guys i'm just friends with.. fuck, i don't even drape myself over the boy.. its pretty fucking obvious that she's interested in him (god only knows why) and its also pretty obvious that the affection between them is extremely unbalanced.. i've only seen the other woman once, last night.. and that was more than enough... .. she's an artist type who seems to think she can smart-ass her way into getting anything.. .. i came downstairs to find her sitting in my fucking chair as though it was hers.. .. people with decent manners don't do shit like that.. her casual arrogance and flippancy are the kinds of things that the boy's brother would find appealing.. .. that is what is so sad.. .. the first girl is nice, and wants to spend time with him.. she makes him cookies and comes over to see him whenever he wants.. .. fuck, she even acts as his personal fucking slave in the game, healing and buffing him whenever he demands it.. 'i need heals!' .. 'heal me now, now!'.. ..'buff me and let's go'.. that's how he treats her.. .. like shit.. like a doormat.. at one point, he randomly started a conversation about dog people and cat people.. he said 'girlx is a dog person, always available and wants to spend time together; girlz is a cat person, more independant and comfortable doing things alone'.. .. i know he only keeps girlx around for the times girlz is unavailable.. he spends time with her so that she can make him feel better about himself.. .. and then, when girlz calls, he promptly ditches girlx.. that is exactly what happened last night.. he was gaming with girlx and girlz called.. .. he took the call and told girlz 'i just need to wrap some things up' ... meaning, 'uh, yeah, i just need to ditch this other chick and then i'll be good to go'.. not only that, but the two of them basically took over the living room and the tv for several hours, and the boy semi-interrupted them making out on the couch.. .. this means that not only did he not ask us if it was okay to bring her over, but he fucking tied up the main floor of the house for hours with a spit-swapping session..

it just drives me fucking crazy.. .. as a woman, and one who has had some experience with shitty guys, this type of behavior is highly offensive to me.. .. its just so stereotypical of selfish pricks who only want a woman around for convenience.. for a while, i thought it was just me who saw this stuff and was upset by it.. .. but the boy mentioned it one day as well, and the fact that he noticed and the fact that it affected him enough to bring it up says a lot.. i do know that the boy has had just about enough... its not fair to feel like a fucking prisoner in your own home.. the brother doesn't pay rent, he doesn't do anything except pay for groceries every few weeks.. .. and he complains when he does even that.. .. i know he is spending money.. .. dvds and leather jackets and that fucking iphone that he continues to shove in our faces.. .. he moved in so that he could consolidate his debt, get some savings together, and get back on his feet after his divorce... well, at least that's what he told us at the time .. but now he's treating this place as if its his fucking bachelor pad.. .. which it most certainly is NOT.. ... his general patronizing attitude and the fact that he is ALWAYS complaining about feeling sick are other long-standing issues that only re-inforce the desire to see him move out..

on the one hand, i'd love to have the extra space back.. the boy and i have talked about how nice it would be to have that bedroom back and spread our desks back out in the computer room (right now we're wedged into one corner so the brother can fit his huge-ass corner desk on the other side of the room).. on the other hand, i kinda wish there was a way to settle the grievances without kicking him out.. .. i mean, its the boy's only brother; he doesn't have multiple siblings like i do.. when is it best to try to be patient and give someone slack, and when is it time to cut them off?

ugh and double fucking ugh.. ..i hate this situation..